Monday, November 10, 2014
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Update 2014
I just got back to JP from London.
London was fun, but bloody expensive. Makes Tokyo look like high class, clean, third world country. :)
I would post more about my traveling but that is where it ends. lol. Sorry I'm lazy on my posts.
Tell me what is important to you?
There is tons that I could write about. Even the things that I post on Facebook.
What topics would you like me to discuss regarding life in Japan or travelling in general as a black woman?
Specific questions on child rearing of biracial kids?
The anime scene in Tokyo?
How to get a Japanese partner?
How to get a visa here?
The topics are endless and overwhelming, so I choose not to write at all. So many people have approached me on writing a bio book about my life or keeping my blog updated but I just don't. If there are people out there that care, get in touch with me. :)
London was fun, but bloody expensive. Makes Tokyo look like high class, clean, third world country. :)
I would post more about my traveling but that is where it ends. lol. Sorry I'm lazy on my posts.
Tell me what is important to you?
There is tons that I could write about. Even the things that I post on Facebook.
What topics would you like me to discuss regarding life in Japan or travelling in general as a black woman?
Specific questions on child rearing of biracial kids?
The anime scene in Tokyo?
How to get a Japanese partner?
How to get a visa here?
The topics are endless and overwhelming, so I choose not to write at all. So many people have approached me on writing a bio book about my life or keeping my blog updated but I just don't. If there are people out there that care, get in touch with me. :)
Thursday, May 31, 2012
UPDATE June
I have been taking the menopausal pills for my condition they seem to be working the past couple months. I had stopped taking pain pills, and my pain went away on its on. Sometimes I have occasional pain but nothing that puts me out of commission like before.
My condition can be cured but can be managed now thank goodness.
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Other than that, I have been trying to get my drivers license. I started the foreign license transfer procedure, and I took the driving portion today. Here's what went down:
I drove amazingly well considering i havent had too much experience controlling a manual with my left hand. I was relaxed and following directions. I dont know the course at all and it can be random, no point remembering a course. Im used to driving unfamiliar roads.
Well i finished the course but failed. He said i drove very well. But i went just a little too far past 1 stop line... not even past the sign. Geez. and went a little over that turning diamond line thing. I thought maybe a few points would be taken off, with a chance to pass. Usually if you fail, you gotta return immediately. Well its rare to pass the first time. So i know what to be careful of now. Other than that everything was perfect, changing lines, extra confirmation at turns, crank, S-curve, etc.
I had a strict teacher for practice to get used to left hand control, and course expectation.
I know what to do now, so If i dont pass next time, it must be a money thing. Lol. I hear so many stories about that and how its almost impossible to pass the first try.
The girl in front of me had almost no idea how to control a manual. I have no idea why she doesn't take automatic transmission test.
I was afraid to be in the car with her. The car was jerky, she ran over curbsides, late signal and lane changes, car stalling, driving on the wrong side of the road...running red lights... He was nice enough to let her finish but i would have appreciated returning quickly....
She was even confusing the turn signal with the windshield wipers a few too many times. Seriously automatic has less stuff for you to worry about. She didn't even remember how to start the car. he told her, push the clutch in. 'oh you mean this thing?' lol.
The guy behind me when I was taking my test didn't notice any technical mistakes. basically i didn't make any, It was his second time. He passed! So i hope i can pass next time!
I will take the test again on June 11th.
After that, still got the motorcycle test.
Another guy I know took his manual test at a different center. The proctor was like wow, you are driving this thing smooth as hell. You should be a taxi driver. Oh, but you still fail. hahah
My condition can be cured but can be managed now thank goodness.
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Other than that, I have been trying to get my drivers license. I started the foreign license transfer procedure, and I took the driving portion today. Here's what went down:
I drove amazingly well considering i havent had too much experience controlling a manual with my left hand. I was relaxed and following directions. I dont know the course at all and it can be random, no point remembering a course. Im used to driving unfamiliar roads.
Well i finished the course but failed. He said i drove very well. But i went just a little too far past 1 stop line... not even past the sign. Geez. and went a little over that turning diamond line thing. I thought maybe a few points would be taken off, with a chance to pass. Usually if you fail, you gotta return immediately. Well its rare to pass the first time. So i know what to be careful of now. Other than that everything was perfect, changing lines, extra confirmation at turns, crank, S-curve, etc.
I had a strict teacher for practice to get used to left hand control, and course expectation.
I know what to do now, so If i dont pass next time, it must be a money thing. Lol. I hear so many stories about that and how its almost impossible to pass the first try.
The girl in front of me had almost no idea how to control a manual. I have no idea why she doesn't take automatic transmission test.
I was afraid to be in the car with her. The car was jerky, she ran over curbsides, late signal and lane changes, car stalling, driving on the wrong side of the road...running red lights... He was nice enough to let her finish but i would have appreciated returning quickly....
She was even confusing the turn signal with the windshield wipers a few too many times. Seriously automatic has less stuff for you to worry about. She didn't even remember how to start the car. he told her, push the clutch in. 'oh you mean this thing?' lol.
The guy behind me when I was taking my test didn't notice any technical mistakes. basically i didn't make any, It was his second time. He passed! So i hope i can pass next time!
I will take the test again on June 11th.
After that, still got the motorcycle test.
Another guy I know took his manual test at a different center. The proctor was like wow, you are driving this thing smooth as hell. You should be a taxi driver. Oh, but you still fail. hahah
Friday, February 24, 2012
UPDATE 2012!!
Its been more than a year since my last post. Well a lot has happened.
For 1, my hair is a lot longer and I'm much sexier. I kept old and new pics up for comparison. lol.
Daughter hasn't changed much. She got bigger and even prettier.
I became a DJ in Tokyo last summer!! Well I was always interested in Djing and mixing music on FL. I used to play a little music at my college events, but nothing over the top. Now I own a set of turntables, tons of record, and a nice set of speakers to practice in my house and party by myself. lol.
I generally play Electro, techno, hiphop, all mix. I go by the name DJ Queen Bass. Im working on putting some mixes on my youtube channel djqueenbass. Catch me on twitter @djqueenbass
Or come out to see me at an event if you live in tokyo. I usually play at events in Shibuya, Shinjuku, and Ikebukuro.
I bought myself a new mac 2 weeks ago so I can travel a bit easier with my equipment and music. Im not in the best of health these days. More that later.
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Of course there was the March 2011 earthquake. I survived through that. I lost my daughter for 5 months though. Her pakistani baby sitter ran away. She was home alone. I couldn't get home because all forms of transportation pretty much came to a stand still. I called the police to check on her. They said maybe they could go but it wasn't a high priority. I walked 5 hours in really high high-heels to get home to her. I usually never even wear high heels. I attempted to walk barefooted but the ground was so painful and cold also. Flats in the stores were sold out because we had millions of people walking that night. So 2 choices: walk in high heels, painful, warm feet or walk without shoes, painful, cold ground.
When I got home the kid was missing, my gas and electricity was off, and I didn't want to walk for another week at least. That night I couldn't sleep at all. The after shocks just kept on coming.
The babes birthday was march 10th and I have planned on celebrating her birthday that weekend. That was a no-go. My birthday is also in march and no celebration of course.
No bread,milk, or chips to be found in tokyo stores for weeks.
Eventually I got my daughter back in August because I put pressure on those people that I was returning to america.
Well i didn't return, but I did move to a new city in November. I live smack dab in the center of tokyo near ginza and tokyo station in a tower mansion on the 31st floor. I have one of the best views in the city.
My money problems are so-so. I can afford to live here and buy the stuff I need. Also expecting a 900 dollar raise in April or will be getting another job if they don't deliver.
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As for japanese men, I don't look at them as disgusting cheating pigs anymore. _i don't care what they do, you know _i care about 1 thing and 1 thing only, besides my daughter.
In fact, I'm not interested in men or anyway these days, I get rather uncomfortable and stressed when they hit on me. _if its platonic and friendly, I don't mind.
But Im not looking for anything serious because I have a daughter and I don't want to drag a burden to them from the beginning. Maybe in a few years I will want to date? For now Im pretty apathetic and asexual.
I will have sex if its beneficial to me though.
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Besides that I almost died too. I think I always had this probably but it got worse since december 20, 2011. I got my period, I became very weak. I had a period for 2 weeks, and then the 3rd week I was bleeding very heavily. Like a gallon of blood or more per day. I started wearing adult diapers and changed them per hour. I didn't know what the fuck was going on. I felt near death though and life force was almost gone, so I went to the doctor. Apparently my uterus was bleeding. And black spots were on my ovaries. They call that PCOS, and dysfunctional uterine bleeding. The doctor put me on some strong hormones for 3 weeks, Well my uterus started bleeding again, and i went to other doctors... also severe uterine pains, back pains, etc. I can't work or move at all some times.
Doctor didn't know the cause of my pains. and the strongest pain meds don't work. I wanted something to numb my mid-section like a epidural, but of course I can't get one everyday. So i continue to work in bad condition. Also I've been researching on my own. And I think I have a condition called Adenomyosis, a internal version of endometriosis. not dysfunctional uterine bleeding. If I get a period, my uterus will bleed heavily. So I need to stop my periods. I wanted a hysterectomy but its illegal in japan unless its cancerous. Well I can't live day to day normally anymore and have to take off work, my salary will be lower as penalty, I'm not eligible for welfare, what do you expect me to do? The shit needs to be removed.
Well, I researched GnRH antagonists and wanted to get start menopause by meds if they can't remove my uterus. He said im in my 20s and by 30s or 40s I would lose bone density and have other menopausal symptoms. ( were already have hot flashes and night sweats though that were keeping me toasty this winter so i don't care), but anyway he started me on dinagest, Something that will gradually stop my periods but leave a little hormone in my body to prevent lose of bone density and other menopausal symptoms. I need a few more weeks to see if the treatment will work. I have an appointment on march 8th. I stopped going back and forth for strong pain meds. I will tell him it hasn't been working and my body is still in pain on and off. Cant be helped, unless my uterus is removed, but as long as i don't get any more periods Im happy. I don't want so much medication in my body. Pain meds cause stomach problems then you need more medicine for the stomach problems. No use in taking them if they don't work anyway.
For 1, my hair is a lot longer and I'm much sexier. I kept old and new pics up for comparison. lol.
Daughter hasn't changed much. She got bigger and even prettier.
I became a DJ in Tokyo last summer!! Well I was always interested in Djing and mixing music on FL. I used to play a little music at my college events, but nothing over the top. Now I own a set of turntables, tons of record, and a nice set of speakers to practice in my house and party by myself. lol.
I generally play Electro, techno, hiphop, all mix. I go by the name DJ Queen Bass. Im working on putting some mixes on my youtube channel djqueenbass. Catch me on twitter @djqueenbass
Or come out to see me at an event if you live in tokyo. I usually play at events in Shibuya, Shinjuku, and Ikebukuro.
I bought myself a new mac 2 weeks ago so I can travel a bit easier with my equipment and music. Im not in the best of health these days. More that later.
-------
Of course there was the March 2011 earthquake. I survived through that. I lost my daughter for 5 months though. Her pakistani baby sitter ran away. She was home alone. I couldn't get home because all forms of transportation pretty much came to a stand still. I called the police to check on her. They said maybe they could go but it wasn't a high priority. I walked 5 hours in really high high-heels to get home to her. I usually never even wear high heels. I attempted to walk barefooted but the ground was so painful and cold also. Flats in the stores were sold out because we had millions of people walking that night. So 2 choices: walk in high heels, painful, warm feet or walk without shoes, painful, cold ground.
When I got home the kid was missing, my gas and electricity was off, and I didn't want to walk for another week at least. That night I couldn't sleep at all. The after shocks just kept on coming.
The babes birthday was march 10th and I have planned on celebrating her birthday that weekend. That was a no-go. My birthday is also in march and no celebration of course.
No bread,milk, or chips to be found in tokyo stores for weeks.
Eventually I got my daughter back in August because I put pressure on those people that I was returning to america.
Well i didn't return, but I did move to a new city in November. I live smack dab in the center of tokyo near ginza and tokyo station in a tower mansion on the 31st floor. I have one of the best views in the city.
My money problems are so-so. I can afford to live here and buy the stuff I need. Also expecting a 900 dollar raise in April or will be getting another job if they don't deliver.
--------
As for japanese men, I don't look at them as disgusting cheating pigs anymore. _i don't care what they do, you know _i care about 1 thing and 1 thing only, besides my daughter.
In fact, I'm not interested in men or anyway these days, I get rather uncomfortable and stressed when they hit on me. _if its platonic and friendly, I don't mind.
But Im not looking for anything serious because I have a daughter and I don't want to drag a burden to them from the beginning. Maybe in a few years I will want to date? For now Im pretty apathetic and asexual.
I will have sex if its beneficial to me though.
-------
Besides that I almost died too. I think I always had this probably but it got worse since december 20, 2011. I got my period, I became very weak. I had a period for 2 weeks, and then the 3rd week I was bleeding very heavily. Like a gallon of blood or more per day. I started wearing adult diapers and changed them per hour. I didn't know what the fuck was going on. I felt near death though and life force was almost gone, so I went to the doctor. Apparently my uterus was bleeding. And black spots were on my ovaries. They call that PCOS, and dysfunctional uterine bleeding. The doctor put me on some strong hormones for 3 weeks, Well my uterus started bleeding again, and i went to other doctors... also severe uterine pains, back pains, etc. I can't work or move at all some times.
Doctor didn't know the cause of my pains. and the strongest pain meds don't work. I wanted something to numb my mid-section like a epidural, but of course I can't get one everyday. So i continue to work in bad condition. Also I've been researching on my own. And I think I have a condition called Adenomyosis, a internal version of endometriosis. not dysfunctional uterine bleeding. If I get a period, my uterus will bleed heavily. So I need to stop my periods. I wanted a hysterectomy but its illegal in japan unless its cancerous. Well I can't live day to day normally anymore and have to take off work, my salary will be lower as penalty, I'm not eligible for welfare, what do you expect me to do? The shit needs to be removed.
Well, I researched GnRH antagonists and wanted to get start menopause by meds if they can't remove my uterus. He said im in my 20s and by 30s or 40s I would lose bone density and have other menopausal symptoms. ( were already have hot flashes and night sweats though that were keeping me toasty this winter so i don't care), but anyway he started me on dinagest, Something that will gradually stop my periods but leave a little hormone in my body to prevent lose of bone density and other menopausal symptoms. I need a few more weeks to see if the treatment will work. I have an appointment on march 8th. I stopped going back and forth for strong pain meds. I will tell him it hasn't been working and my body is still in pain on and off. Cant be helped, unless my uterus is removed, but as long as i don't get any more periods Im happy. I don't want so much medication in my body. Pain meds cause stomach problems then you need more medicine for the stomach problems. No use in taking them if they don't work anyway.
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Update on Yakuza and Dating Japanese men
The Yakuza really isnt that scary. In fact, if your a black or white foreigner, they generally enjoy talking to you. But if you're a asian foreigner, you might be a bit unwelcome.
I have needed to enlist the help of the Yakuza due to some crazy incident, I cant get into it now. But I realized, I shouldnt be afraid of them. Better to be their friend than an enemy.
The Yakuza isnt some secret society in Japan. In fact, they have offices you can just walk into. lol. But most people dont. for some reason, the police never go after them either when they do shit. So they are openly out there and feared. oh well.
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As for Japanese men cheating on their wives, the wives also play some part in their infidelity. So its really their own fault if they cant keep a man whipped or tamed for a while so he doesnt cheat 'as often'... I know a guy who cheats as much as possible, at least 2 or 3 different women per week. crazy.
The wives stop having sex with their husband, so they have to find other women. i heard the wives just get married to trap them, like for money and a stable life. Have a kid or 2, and then stop fucking them period. Then can just use them for money and child support, dont allow them to have another girlfriend either even when they stop fucking them for years. I know another guy who hasnt had sex with his wife for 6 years. and he's supposed to pretend he's ok and happy. and he cant have another girlfriend either. (but of course he cheats) I know like 4 or 5 guys like this, who havent had sex for the wife in years because their wife 'doesnt like sex.' lol.
i think they are actually naive enough to think that the husband will stay faithful all them years too, of no sex. they'd be doing themselves a favor to fuck him more often. and spice it up a bit, be exotic every once in a while so he's not out looking for others everyday...
I know the game. marriage with japanese women=sexless mariage. you didnt know this beforehand, before you married? hahaha... just ask any japanese man... I know about 5 or 6 or them married, and having another mistress as well. I dont blame them that much...
But these guys know their fathers cheated on their mothers as well. So I'm surprised they settled down, period. Better to play the field, adopt and be a single father if you want a child. So some lady isnt using up all your money and have financial attachment forever. At least you can spend money on a kid thats only yours.
maybe the wives pretend they like sex in the beginning, and then be like yeahhhh lets have a baby... he thinks the love life will continue after the baby, and it never does. lol.
I have needed to enlist the help of the Yakuza due to some crazy incident, I cant get into it now. But I realized, I shouldnt be afraid of them. Better to be their friend than an enemy.
The Yakuza isnt some secret society in Japan. In fact, they have offices you can just walk into. lol. But most people dont. for some reason, the police never go after them either when they do shit. So they are openly out there and feared. oh well.
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As for Japanese men cheating on their wives, the wives also play some part in their infidelity. So its really their own fault if they cant keep a man whipped or tamed for a while so he doesnt cheat 'as often'... I know a guy who cheats as much as possible, at least 2 or 3 different women per week. crazy.
The wives stop having sex with their husband, so they have to find other women. i heard the wives just get married to trap them, like for money and a stable life. Have a kid or 2, and then stop fucking them period. Then can just use them for money and child support, dont allow them to have another girlfriend either even when they stop fucking them for years. I know another guy who hasnt had sex with his wife for 6 years. and he's supposed to pretend he's ok and happy. and he cant have another girlfriend either. (but of course he cheats) I know like 4 or 5 guys like this, who havent had sex for the wife in years because their wife 'doesnt like sex.' lol.
i think they are actually naive enough to think that the husband will stay faithful all them years too, of no sex. they'd be doing themselves a favor to fuck him more often. and spice it up a bit, be exotic every once in a while so he's not out looking for others everyday...
I know the game. marriage with japanese women=sexless mariage. you didnt know this beforehand, before you married? hahaha... just ask any japanese man... I know about 5 or 6 or them married, and having another mistress as well. I dont blame them that much...
But these guys know their fathers cheated on their mothers as well. So I'm surprised they settled down, period. Better to play the field, adopt and be a single father if you want a child. So some lady isnt using up all your money and have financial attachment forever. At least you can spend money on a kid thats only yours.
maybe the wives pretend they like sex in the beginning, and then be like yeahhhh lets have a baby... he thinks the love life will continue after the baby, and it never does. lol.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Thanksgiving in Japan
If you are living overseas, and missing your favorite holiday foods, you need to either improvise or have something sent over your home country/order online.
I have been wanting some velvetta cheesy macaroni and some instant stuffing, and cranberry sauce. So my aunt was supposed to be mailing that stuff to me, as well as some Chocolate Lucky Charms. I love those things.
Well it was taking a bit too long to arrive. And I realized/remembered that instant things didnt always exist around here. So I headed out to the super market to get ingrediants and make everything from stratch.
This picture is just basic, but I could have made a whole dinner with turkey and corn, sweet potatoes, etc..
I made stuffing with lots of nice seasonings. And I made original chesse sauce for my pasta. I used milk and cheeses- orange kraft, and some japanese white cheese. It was delicious.
As for cranberry sauce, I was going to make that original too. But I had a ton of blueberries in my home that I needed to eat before they go bad. So I made original blueberry sauce instead. It was pretty delicious.
Im still waiting for my instant food to arrive in the mail. But finally when I had a little time on my hands, it wasnt difficult to find ingredients and make everything from stratch. :)
Monday, November 8, 2010
Money troubles
Recently I worked as a hostess before in Okachimachi... everything was fine for a while, until I didnt accept some demands by the owner (moving all the way to odawara just to work at his other club, and less pay than okachimachi as well, lol, and he wasnt paying my moving cost, apartment, etc.. ), so they let me go. They didnt pay me my full salary either. I was expecting at least 250,000 yen for october. They gave me 80,000 yen. i barely had enough for rent (60,000 yen per month) and bills (electricity, gas, NHI, etc). Let alone any money left for my baby things, food, transportation money job interviews(I was looking for full-time day time work, and have since acquired one, but it wont start until a few weeks laters).
I also think the owner were related to yakuza, so I dont know if I can really fight them. Even if i report them, or want to sue them, those people have my information, like address from my alien registration card.. . Many illegal russians or romanians work there, like slaves. Because He pay their ticket over here to Japan. Maybe something similar happens to them, but at least they are alone by themselves. I have to struggle with a baby. The legal people who worked for him, that have permanent residence, cant leave. They borrowed big money from him to send to their home countries. He doesnt allow them to have day time job either, even though they have their own visas. And, they dont make enough money to pay him back, just enough to pay their rent and live for the month. How can they pay him back? They wont for a while if they cant have another source of income. He has a permanent hold on them...
I tried to do 1 day temporary jobs too, but the agency said only citizens or permanent residents can use that services, and other visa holders can not-- even spouse of japanese/child of japanese or long term resident. i could understand if people with a work visa, not allowed to use temporary job services. but for people who have visas with no restriction on work, I was suprised to learn it.
For now I just work again at hostess club, in Ginza.. the owner also own some ginza hotels, so he's classy rich from real business and family inheritance, not like yakuza guy who has bad temper and want to treat people bad, and only rich from selling drugs, prostitution, etc.
The Ginza guy only hire legal peoples like permanent resident or marriage visa too. They are really strict about business and money.. and have real paperwork. so. i shouldnt have anymore problem about a salary.. if so, i can just report them for not paying me or whatever it is.
I went to interview before working both of these clubs and I definitely know the difference now between classy places and yakuza places. I know what to look for now. when i went to interview in ginza, the guys were dressed really nice. and had a good face, like calm face. The okachimachi people, they wear pants and white shirt with a tie, but their faces were tired, like maybe from stress or having a rough time.
Kyouka's father disappeared sometime during my pregnancy... and he hasnt been returning my emails or calling me. so far. Usually i dont think about him at all and Im rather cool and collected about my situation and single motherhood. But I guess my recent financial crisis sent some shockwaves... At one point, I even had only 200 yen for a few days, and didnt take a train or eat anything. That was scary... I was thinking Im gonna have to steal food and bust train gates.. get coaught.. go to jail... lol.
last night, I randomly had a dream about him, and I was thinking, I should stalk the places where he used to go to see if I can catch him around. He moved, and I dont know if he still lives in shinjuku or not.. but maybe I need to stalk around that area..
but yeah, next time I see him, Im just gonna run up and kill him, no need to give warning or ask why he's disappeared and not helping me take care of his kid. I could be suffering a lot less financially if he would help, to at least buy the baby things.
so far, all the jap guys i know are no good. I've mentioned before that I know 5 guys already married with kids and also have mistress. even 1 of them, having wonderful relationship with their wife, no fights, playful, best friends..., but he has sex with wife and his mistress.
I'm looking for the single guy who can 'help' a little, financially, to take care of me and my daughter one day... the married ones who want want me, are useless to me. They cant help me with money cuz they gotta pay their own rent and wife's shit, and kids's shit. All they want is sex. sex isnt gonna pay my bills or put food on my table.
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